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relationships are emotion regulators. They’re stress regulators. So stressful things happen every day to many of us, right? So then what happens? Well, the body goes into fight-or-flight mode, blood pressure goes up, respirations become more rapid, circulating stress hormone levels rise. But then the body is meant to go back to equilibrium after that normal fight-or-flight response when we face a challenge. If I can come home and there’s somebody here to talk to, I can literally feel my body calm down.
✏️ Why communities are important. It could be a friend, a partner, or a group.. anything that represents people you can be comfortable talking with and getting back to normal with. 🔗 View Highlight
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people who are isolated, that they’re more likely to stay in a kind of chronic fight-or-flight mode. And that what that means is that they have higher levels of circulating cortisol, higher levels of chronic inflammation, and that those things gradually wear away body systems.
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Just like many young people today, many participants from the Harvard study also believed that money and achievement were what they should go after to have a good life. But what this study and plenty of others show is that the people who were the happiest were those that leaned into their relationships with their partner, friends, family, and community. And when they were in their 80s the researchers asked them, what are you most proud of and what is your biggest regret? - Many people said that they were proudest of something to do with their relationships. So it could be, “I was a good boss, I was a good parent, I was a good friend, I was a good mentor.” Nobody said, “I made a fortune,” right?
✏️ Are we just bad at knowing what’s good for us, or are we being given the wrong messages constantly? I’d say we’re given the wrong messages about what’s important, and that includes the systems around us keeping us in a state of precarity that reinforces those messages. Relationships are legitimately better for us, but we only see things in terms of needing money to survive. 🔗 View Highlight
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below a threshold of roughly a hundred thousand dollars a year, a higher income was associated with more happiness for all groups. But if you go above that threshold, then for the unhappiest group, a further increase is not associated with more happiness. However, for all the happier groups, higher incomes do seem to lead to more happiness.
✏️ If i’m understanding this right, more money generally brings more happiness.. but it primarily depends on your level of happiness in the first place. If you’re not very happy, more money is not going to be very helpful. If you’re very very happy, more money gives you an extra boost of happiness. 🔗 View Highlight